Reparenting Yourself for Joyful Productivity

Maybe you know this feeling:

You’re a coach, a healer, or a creator, pouring your heart into your work with others. But when it’s time to build your own business — outlining that course, crafting a newsletter, or deciding on your next offering — the freeze hits.

“What if it’s not the right approach?”

“What if it doesn’t resonate?”

The questions loop, and nothing moves…

It’s not a lack of time nor ideas.

It’s an old, internalized fear holding you back from experimenting.

I’ve been there, staring at a blank screen… anxiety rising, just like anyone else. As soulpreneurs, we might even face this daily. Our work demands authenticity — sharing our unique voice and soul-led insights… but something in us resists.

How do we break free? I believe that we need to reparent ourselves. It’s been for me a practical, life-changing practice. I’ll walk you through it, drawing from what I’ve learned over 16 years as a full-time soulpreneur.

Why We Need Reparenting

We were parented for an outdated world.

Our early “parenting” came not just from our families, but from the school system that shaped us most. The core message? For every problem, there’s one right answer. Memorize it. Regurgitate it on the test. Deviate, and you’re wrong — punished with bad grades, disapproval, perhaps even shame…

This fixed mindset was often reiterated at home: one right way to do chores, to behave, to fit in.

Conformity was safe. Experimentation was risky.

That training runs deep.

It wired us for certainty, not creativity.

Here’s the problem — entrepreneurial reality is the opposite! There’s never just one right answer. Infinite paths exist. What’s “correct” for one person might flop for you, while your intuitive idea lights up your ideal clients.

Authenticity means finding your unique answer, not copying a template.

This mismatch creates a brutal internal conflict. We crave the safety of the “right” way, but our work demands that we color outside the lines. Experimentation feels dangerous because we associate it with failure — bad grades, rejection, being unpopular/ostracized. Perhaps subconsciously we fear that we’ll become that kid who got it wrong again…

The result? Analysis paralysis. Projects languish. Launches stall. Your business might survive, but what eludes you is the growth that could bring you abundance.

We need to reparent ourselves, to rewrite the script and turn that fear into brave, embodied action.

How I Reparent Myself

It’s active, daily work. I’m working on becoming the compassionate guide my younger self needed… one who celebrates experimentation, not perfection.

I start with my mindset, then build tools for the moments fear arises:

The foundational practice is a new mindset and mantra.

I’ve practiced shifting from asking, “What’s the right answer?” to expansive questions like:

• “What can I learn from this?”
• “What aspect of this did I enjoy?”
• “What might joyful productivity look like for this project?”

This is the truth that I repeat to myself often: “There is no single right answer. There’s an abundance of pathways to fulfillment and success.” Over time, it has rewired my brain for curiosity, rather than requiring control.

Reparenting has many forms. Besides the mindset work above, I also do my energy reboots.

Multiple times a day — four times an hour during focused work — I pause for this 20-second reset. It’s how I reparent myself in real time. When anxiety hits (and it does), I breathe and affirm: “You’re secure. Total love. You can do this.”

It quiets the inner critic, grounds me in self-compassion, and lets me step forward lightly. No perfection required. Just one messy outline, one imperfect email draft.

(Learn more: the energy reboot)

If a regular reparenting practice feels like your next step, start small. One reboot today.

This is proactive reparenting: using fear as your cue. Before you act, do the reboot. It shifts your focus from external judgment to internal resonance. You’re not seeking approval; you’re aligning with what feels true for you.

Then there’s reactive reparenting — for when things don’t go as hoped. A launch underperforms. A post gets crickets. The old inner parent would punish: “See? You got it wrong.”

Intercept that. Step in as the new parent. First, celebrate the effort. “You took action! That’s important. I’m proud of you for showing up.” This is radical self-love, breaking the punishment cycle. Then, gently shift: “Abundant opportunities are ahead for me. What can I learn from this recent experience?” This turns disappointment into data.

Reparenting accelerates with external support — your chosen family.

Consciously surround yourself with fellow creatives who embrace an experimental mindset. Not fixed thinkers chasing “the one way,” but soulpreneurs who cheer each other’s unique paths. (For example: The JoyPro Community.) Your chosen family reparents you collectively, creating the safety to blend your soul’s passion with what the market responds to.

Join a mastermind, a buddy session, or use tools like Focusmate for silent accountability. I use it daily: 50 minutes with a virtual partner, no talk, just supportive presence and focused work.

Why does this work? Because confidence isn’t talent — it’s repetition. I’m not smarter than you. In fact, I find that many of my clients’ intuitions give them better answers than I as their coach could.

But ten years of reparenting has built my edge. I override the doubt and take breaks non-negotiably (two naps a day, four 20-second reboots per hour). I create flow on demand instead of waiting for inspiration. And I’ve learned that breaks don’t interrupt momentum; they create it. That restless monkey mind? It’s adorable, but I keep it contained when it’s time to work!

For parents or caregivers, I know your windows are limited. But audit one of your days. Got a half hour between appointments? Use it for one reboot and a quick Focusmate pair. Transform drift into light action.

This act of sharing our journey is part of the reparenting process itself. It helps us all break free from the “one right answer” model. I invite you to share your own methods for reparenting, below in the comments. Your idea might be the key that unlocks someone else’s path.

Start reparenting yourself today. Watch your soul-led business unfold — not perfectly, but authentically.