In business, I’ve been learning the importance of not worrying about making “a good first impression."
For example, this may be the first blog post you’ve read from me. Maybe it’s making a poor first impression on you… should I be afraid of losing you as a potential reader?
If I allowed that fear, I would probably not write or publish… there are too many people I could disappoint, readers I could "lose", reviews that could “devastate” my business… if I don't make a good first impression.
There’s a fallacy of thinking here:
Did you know that your brain is almost as active when you’re asleep as when you’re awake?
It’s also true when you’re “only” relaxing. Your brain is just as active. When you're not "focused" your brain is in what’s called diffuse mode. It’s still thinking for you, solving the problem you were focused on before, except in the background of consciousness.
If you’re only in “focused” mode all the time, you’re not effectively tapping the hugely creative power of your subconscious mind.
This is why I rest frequently throughout the day. Although my work hours on the calendar are between 7am and 7pm, I’m often resting and relaxing during those hours.
Each time I get away from my computer and do something else, I know I am going into the brain’s diffuse mode, and my consciousness is “working” on my project or problem in a different, more creative way… without my having to focus on it.
In other words, it’s a form of “productive” self-care.
Here are some different ways to do “frequent creative rest”...
A client was wondering how I am able to stick to a regimented schedule, yet remain calm and joyful as I work. Even with a full day of appointments and other work — whenever I meet with clients, they don’t feel like I’m in a hurry. I can focus on being my creative self with them.
Every workday, I stick to a schedule, getting a lot done in an easeful manner, without undue stress or strain.
It’s taken a lot of practice to get here. Here’s the key philosophy:
I’m strict about showing up, lenient about results, and gentle to bring myself back to focus again and again.
This is opposite of what many people do...
Today, your work, your tasks, are not your top priority.
Your state is your top priority.
How are you being, as you go about your tasks and your work?
Are you harried, anxious, struggling, and “just want to get it done”?
The quality of your work tends to match the quality of your being.
Many people try to apply “The Law Of Attraction” (popularized by the movie “The Secret”) ... and no matter how hard they try, they don’t manifest those million dollars.
Or if they get that fancy mansion or red sports car, it becomes debt they later regret. Or that perfect relationship doesn’t end up working out.
I believe it's because visualization is ineffective, even detrimental, when used only on the outcome.
What if we use visualization for the process instead of just the desired result?
George Kao is a Marketing Coach for small business owners, especially solopreneurs such as Coaches and Mentors. He focuses on ethical & effective ways to grow one's platform and build true livelihood.
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